{"id":121,"date":"2017-05-15T17:00:47","date_gmt":"2017-05-15T16:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/?p=121"},"modified":"2025-03-26T23:13:48","modified_gmt":"2025-03-26T22:13:48","slug":"relation-amoureuse-quel-parcours-au-fil-du-temps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/relation-amoureuse-quel-parcours-au-fil-du-temps\/","title":{"rendered":"Relation amoureuse, quel parcours au fil du temps ?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-pm-slice=\"1 1 []\"><em><strong>Les psychanalystes et sociologues expliquent pourquoi la relation amoureuse sur la dur\u00e9e est source de conflits internes et externes. Tout l\u2019enjeu est de trouver un \u00e9quilibre entre fusion et autonomie.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2 data-pm-slice=\"1 2 []\"><strong>Les trois phases de la relation amoureuse<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Quand une histoire d\u2019amour d\u00e9bute, tout semble magique. Cette premi\u00e8re phase, celle de la <strong>fusion et du d\u00e9sir sexuel<\/strong>, est marqu\u00e9e par l\u2019intensit\u00e9 et l\u2019enchantement.<\/p>\n<p>Ensuite vient l\u2019<strong>amour romantique<\/strong>, o\u00f9 chacun redouble d\u2019attention et d\u2019efforts pour solidifier <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/amour-cest-quoi\/\">la relation et construire un couple durable.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Enfin, la derni\u00e8re phase est celle de <strong>l\u2019attachement<\/strong> : plus calme, plus sereine, elle permet aux partenaires de rester ensemble et d\u2019assumer des projets de long terme, comme la parentalit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>Selon une \u00e9tude, <strong>75 % des gens estiment que se sentir aim\u00e9 est plus important que l\u2019acte sexuel<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2221\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.-.webp\" alt=\"Un couple \u00e9voluant dans le temps (illustration montrant les diff\u00e9rentes phases de la relation\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.-.webp 1024w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--300x300.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--150x150.webp 150w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--768x768.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--715x715.webp 715w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--483x483.webp 483w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--360x360.webp 360w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--600x600.webp 600w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Illustration-of-a-couple-evolving-through-different-stages-of-a-relationship.--263x263.webp 263w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><strong>L\u2019amour, une pulsion naturelle ?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>L\u2019anthropologue <strong>Helen Fisher<\/strong> a analys\u00e9 plus de <strong>2 500 scanners c\u00e9r\u00e9braux<\/strong> de personnes amoureuses. Ses recherches montrent que <strong>l\u2019amour et le d\u00e9sir sexuel activent des zones distinctes du cerveau<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Elle conclut que si l\u2019amour suit un sch\u00e9ma biologique, son parcours varie selon les individus :<\/p>\n<ul data-spread=\"false\">\n<li>Certains tombent amoureux avant m\u00eame d\u2019avoir une relation physique.<\/li>\n<li>D\u2019autres commencent par le sexe et d\u00e9veloppent ensuite des sentiments.<\/li>\n<li>Certains ne ressentent l\u2019amour qu\u2019apr\u00e8s une longue amiti\u00e9.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Entre fusion et ind\u00e9pendance : l\u2019\u00e9quilibre \u00e0 trouver<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Le psychanalyste <strong>Serge Hefez<\/strong> et les sociologues <strong>Fran\u00e7ois de Singly<\/strong> et <strong>Serge Chaumier<\/strong> expliquent que l\u2019amour est un <strong>jeu entre individualit\u00e9 et vie commune<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Au d\u00e9but, le \u00ab\u00a0<strong>nous<\/strong>\u00a0\u00bb domine le \u00ab\u00a0<strong>je<\/strong>\u00a0\u00bb : les partenaires fusionnent et r\u00e9organisent leur monde autour de l\u2019autre. Mais vient un moment o\u00f9 chacun ressent le besoin de <strong>retrouver son espace personnel<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Selon <strong>Fran\u00e7ois de Singly<\/strong>, ce conflit entre autonomie et engagement est omnipr\u00e9sent dans nos soci\u00e9t\u00e9s modernes. Chaque individu doit accepter que certaines d\u00e9cisions ne soient plus prises seul, mais en concertation avec l\u2019autre.<\/p>\n<p>C\u2019est tout l\u2019enjeu d\u2019une relation \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e : savoir alterner entre <strong>compromis et ind\u00e9pendance<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2227\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one.webp\" alt=\"Une balance ou un jeu d\u2019\u00e9quilibre symbolisant la tension entre autonomie et engagement.\" width=\"1792\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one.webp 1792w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-300x171.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-1024x585.webp 1024w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-768x439.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-1536x878.webp 1536w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-1080x617.webp 1080w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-483x276.webp 483w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-360x206.webp 360w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-600x343.webp 600w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-symbolic-image-of-a-balance-scale-representing-the-tension-between-autonomy-and-commitment-in-a-relationship.-The-scale-is-evenly-balanced-with-one-263x150.webp 263w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1792px) 100vw, 1792px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><strong>Un amour moderne en perp\u00e9tuelle \u00e9volution<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Serge Chaumier parle de <strong>\u00ab\u00a0couple fissionnel\u00a0\u00bb<\/strong>, oppos\u00e9 au mod\u00e8le fusionnel d\u2019autrefois. Aujourd\u2019hui, l\u2019amour se red\u00e9finit \u00e0 travers :<\/p>\n<ul data-spread=\"false\">\n<li>Des relations <strong>moins fig\u00e9es<\/strong>, marqu\u00e9es par des ruptures et reconstructions.<\/li>\n<li>Une <strong>qu\u00eate d\u2019ind\u00e9pendance mutuelle<\/strong>, o\u00f9 chaque partenaire conserve son espace.<\/li>\n<li>Une <strong>relation durable non plus fond\u00e9e sur la d\u00e9pendance<\/strong>, mais sur l\u2019\u00e9change et la compr\u00e9hension.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Le psychologue <strong>G\u00e9rard Apfeldorfer<\/strong> insiste sur l\u2019importance d\u2019<strong>entretenir la s\u00e9duction et le d\u00e9sir<\/strong> \u00e0 travers des rituels intimes et des moments de complicit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>L\u2019amour d\u2019hier n\u2019est plus celui d\u2019aujourd\u2019hui<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Nombre de sociologues et th\u00e9rapeutes s\u2019accordent \u00e0 dire que <strong>le mythe du couple fusionnel \u00e9ternel appartient au pass\u00e9<\/strong>. Si l\u2019amour passion existe, une relation durable repose sur :<\/p>\n<ul data-spread=\"false\">\n<li><strong>L\u2019empathie et la communication.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Un \u00e9quilibre entre proximit\u00e9 et libert\u00e9.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>L\u2019entretien du d\u00e9sir et de la complicit\u00e9.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2228\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the.webp\" alt=\"Image sur \u00e9volution des relations modernes avec un couple moderne , chacun avec ses activit\u00e9s mais toujours connect\u00e9s.\" width=\"1792\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the.webp 1792w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-300x171.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-1024x585.webp 1024w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-768x439.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-1536x878.webp 1536w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-1080x617.webp 1080w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-483x276.webp 483w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-360x206.webp 360w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-600x343.webp 600w, https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/mygreatdating-et-vous\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/A-modern-couple-engaged-in-separate-activities-while-staying-connected.-One-person-is-working-on-a-laptop-while-the-other-is-practicing-yoga-but-the-263x150.webp 263w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1792px) 100vw, 1792px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Comme le dit Fran\u00e7ois de Singly :<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u00ab La vie de couple, c\u2019est le plaisir d\u2019aller et venir dans sa relation, entre moments partag\u00e9s et espace personnel. \u00bb<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mygreatdating.com\/\">Fr\u00e9d\u00e9rique, coach PNL<\/a>\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p data-pm-slice=\"1 1 []\"><em><strong>Les psychanalystes et sociologues expliquent pourquoi la relation amoureuse sur la dur\u00e9e est source de conflits internes et 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